So I need everyone's opinion on this to make it fair but when I posted my bad habit (to stop swearing) my main intention was to stop the cussing around my son since he's picking up on everything now. However, I did not explain my reasoning when I posted so now the big question is: is it a modification of my existing bad habit to say that my goal is to stop the swearing in front of my son or is it clasified as changing my habit and therefore will cost me 50 pts.
I think that the fact that you have identified the core reason for the habit change, and the fact that you're putting it up for a vote shows that you're not trying to change a habit because its too hard (as I feel is the reason for the 50 pt penalty) but because its more of a realistic and therefore more attainable goal. I say as long as you double your efforts on watching your mouth around the kid you get by without having to take the penalty...but, I'm on your team...
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I think you already know this is a harder habit to change than you thought it was going to be. But I also think you should realize that this is an all-in habit — you do it or you don't, you get your points or you don't. How many hours a day do you spend with your son? If it's the majority of the day, then you should strive to eliminate swearing entirely. Trying to switch from an R-rated mouth to a G-rated mouth is going to be just too difficult to manage. Plus, you'll be happier with yourself if you aren't dropping f-bombs or other swear words in your every day conversations with people.
ReplyDeleteFor what it's worth....my opinion.
ReplyDeleteHere is what you posted originally.
(My bad thing to stop is swearing. My son is getting to the age he's picking up on everything so this will be good for me.)
So technically, you need to stop swearing, period. Having just worked on this as my bad habit during our 9 week round, I can say from experience this is really an all or nothing kind of thing. I lost countless points while working on this habit. In a split second, GONE! It was hard and frustrating. But I did it! If you spend the majority of your day with your son, you might as well just give up the sailor mouth for good. I found it challenging to find new, more intellectual way of expressing myself. GO! V
I agree with Adam on this. I feel that you have realized that this IS a very hard habit to kick, and I know that you will make that happen. . .I don't believe the "All in" method is a great way to handle this issue. That's just setting yourself up for failure, 50 points or not. Sometimes achieving great things require "baby steps", and I think that baby steps can lead you towards the path of not cussing at all. . . It's kind of like taking a oath to not text while driving. . .reading texts is still "texting", sitting at a light or not. . . but it's absolutely safer than reading and texting in the act of driving a automobile. . . So I'll except that as a "baby step". . .that's fine with me!
ReplyDeleteBut I'm on your team too. . .
I agree with Geoff, you either swear or you don't. How can you control what you say around your son when you talk another way at work. This is a very hard habit, but will be well worth it in the end.
ReplyDeleteI think you should stick with your original goal or lose the 50 points to change. The reason you picked the habit you did is because it's something you feel like you need to change. Therefore it should be hard. It should be something you have work at everyday.
ReplyDeleteSO BY RIGHTS INSTEAD OF SAYING I'M GOING TO "GIVE UP CHOCOLATE BARS" I should of said "CHOCOLATE!!" UNLESS IT IS WW POINTED?
ReplyDeleteI'm a little late on this, but I am goIning to add my cent and a half.
ReplyDeleteI think you should keep your original goal to "swear no more".
In the end you will be much happier if you reach your goal without changing it, and I know you will be happy when you do.